Goodness gracious. It seems like everyone already has their own groups of friends. I remember going out with friends to bars where everyone else was also out with their friends, and nobody was talking to anyone else.
It makes you wonder, doesn’t it? If not online dating, where can we meet someone special?
I mean, there’s the gym, sure. But have you ever hit on anyone at the gym without it being awkward? “Oh, hey, how much can you bench press?” In fact, the only time anyone has ever even talked to me at the gym it was because he was a personal trainer and I was doing something very wrong.
Then I switched to yoga, which is not a place to meet men.
A lot of couples I know have met their special someone at work. That makes sense, there’s at least a little common ground. You have something to say to each other right off the bat! And if it’s not a fun working environment, that’s actually even better. Commiserating over happy hour leads to talking about life, then leads to a date, maybe.
But what if you work in an office of five? Where everyone except you is married? That was me. That was my story.
Perhaps the coffee shop? Or the bar? Or even the grocery store? What things do you do on a daily basis that would have you running into people you’d like to meet?
Those weren’t viable options for me. I live a quiet, frugal life, and I didn’t want to change that. At all. I could hardly be bothered to spend $20 in the hopes that doing so would have me bump into the man of my dreams.
Go for a walk. Go for a jog. Ride your bicycle. Explore. You’re definitely not going to meet anyone in your pajamas at home (except on the internet!) so you should get yourself out in public where you can be seen.
However, sometimes this isn’t possible. And it’s certainly not easy. I’m an extrovert, but sometimes it’s hard to leave the comfort and coziness of my own home to get outside. Plus, if your mentality is “okay, I’ll go for a walk and hopefully I will meet someone” you give off the vibe of desperation. And neediness. And you’ll come home feeling winded, let down, and exhausted.
We live in such an odd time of history. In order to meet a neighbor for a cup of coffee, I can’t just go to the coffee shop. I have to go home, and start marketing myself as someone who would be a good companion for a cup of coffee.
So, I headed online. Have you tried online dating? What were your experiences?