I have several friends who aren’t going to get married. Their reasons are varied, but most of them have been married before. They don’t want to go through the legal hassle of getting married (and I suppose, potentially divorced?) again.
I have never been married, but I believe in the institution. My life plan includes a wedding. I understand my friends who are different, I really do. But it makes for a sticky situation.
What do you call your significant other, if not husband/wife?
- Girlfriend/boyfriend. Problem: Kids have boyfriends. It’s the same word when you’re 14 as it is when you’re 40, but usually the circumstances are different.
- Partner. Problem: I didn’t know you were gay! You were just using her gender when discussing her, now she’s a partner, dude? I’m confused.
- Significant other. Problem: What. A. Mouthful.
- Love. Problem: Too cheesy. You can’t really even say it in conversation.
- Husband/wife. Depending on the crowd, this could ruffle some feathers, but it could also lead to less confusion overall. Maybe you don’t want to talk about the reason you aren’t getting married.
- Fiancee. This is my favorite, because it implies a certain level of seriousness, and does not typically lead to a conversation about bridesmaids and taffeta.
Are you in a serious-but-not-going-to-get-married relationship?
What do you call your other half?