I wrote my pro/con list about online dating. It was brought to my attention that many things on the con list do not have anything to do with the internet, and that maybe I wasn’t ready to put myself out there, whether “there” was the internet or the … local bars.
Holly would really like me to try online dating. She makes the same argument that my coworker does. Something along the lines of “where do you think you’ll run into someone, then? Work? The grocery store?” and I get that, I do. I am frugal, so my day typically looks like this:
- Go to work
- Go to yoga
- Go hang out with friends either at my house or their house (hey, I love family dinner) or go to the grocery store
- Go home
That’s the truth, with some variation. I mean, sometimes I go to yoga after work, not before!
But it leaves little room to meet someone, unless we’re romantically reaching for the same pear, then we’ll tell a joke and fall in love in the produce section.
In a break from routine, I went out to dinner with a dear friend last week. I told her I didn’t want to do online dating. I want to experience the magic. She listened patiently, and said, “okay, I won’t make you do online dating. But you’ve got to get yourself out there! I’m not letting you give in to your reclusive self.” She also gave me tips on how not to be awkward.
Here’s a new-to-me one: when you part ways, say something about looking each other up on Facebook. You don’t have to go “phone number” with every new person.
This friend is really smart, and has a magnetic personality. You’d love her. She knows how to get attention without much effort (looks definitely have something to do with it but also she appears so friendly that you’re drawn to her.
I listened to her advice, and nodded.
But really, I’m stumped. If I’m adamant about not meeting someone online, where am I expecting to meet someone?
This weekend, I went to a coffee shop to do writing. Which is less frugal than staying home, but it’s at least getting me “out there” where I may or may not meet someone friendly.
Then, I went to a concert with my friends. On a Sunday Night!
Both of these things I wouldn’t have done without the gentle prodding of someone I trust.
However! I’m just about out of ideas. So, I’m going to ask the audience on this one:Where, exactly is this “out there” that I need to get to?